“That Fat Man is Giving Birth: Gender Identity, Reproduction, and the Pregnant Body”
Navigating Pregnancy as a Trans Man: Unique Challenges and Perspectives from K Surkan
At Trans Fertility Co., we understand that the journey to parenthood for transgender individuals is unique and can come with its own set of challenges. We want to share some nuggets of wisdom from a recent essay written by K Surkan; it delves into experiences of trans men who have navigated pregnancy, highlighting the importance of visibility, support, and breaking down traditional gender norms. The entire essay can be accessed here:
“That Fat Man is Giving Birth: Gender Identity, Reproduction, and the Pregnant Body”
Transitioning and Embracing Pregnancy
Meet Sion and Stephen, two trans men who decided to pause their hormone therapy to embark on the journey of pregnancy. Sion, who was younger and had been on hormones for a shorter time, often found himself misidentified as a lesbian during his pregnancy and while nursing his son. This misidentification brought about its own set of challenges and misunderstandings.
Stephen, on the other hand, had undergone top surgery and was never mistaken for female. However, he faced the unique challenge of not always being recognized as the birth parent of his daughter. These experiences highlight the diverse and personal nature of pregnancy for trans men.
Hormonal Changes vs. Physical Changes
When we talk about pregnancy, the focus often shifts to physical changes like weight gain. However, for many trans men, the hormonal changes can be a more significant concern, particularly in relation to their sense of masculinity. This is an important aspect to consider, as it shows the depth of the emotional and physical journey that comes with pregnancy.
Butch women, in contrast, may focus more on issues like maternity clothing and weight gain, which contribute to the invisibility of their pregnancies. It’s a reminder that every journey is different and shaped by individual experiences and perceptions.
Finding Visibility and Support
One of the toughest parts of being a pregnant trans man or butch woman is the invisibility. Finding services and support can be a challenge, and navigating gendered spaces, such as public restrooms, can become particularly difficult. The rigid societal norms around pregnancy can make it hard for those who don't fit the traditional image of a pregnant person.
Imagine being visibly pregnant and entering a women’s restroom, only to be confronted by someone who doesn't understand your journey. This story is one of many reminders of how important it is to create awareness and understanding in our communities, so trans folks on fertility journeys can be safe everywhere we go.
Breaking Down Norms and Embracing Every Journey
At Trans Fertility Co., we believe in breaking down the traditional notions of pregnancy being inherently female or feminine. We celebrate the diversity of experiences and aim to provide the visibility and support needed for every unique journey.
Whether you’re considering pregnancy, navigating it, or simply looking for information, know that you’re not alone. Our community is here to support you every step of the way. Let’s continue to share our stories, support each other, and redefine what it means to be a parent.
Remember, your journey to parenthood is valid, beautiful, and uniquely yours. We’re here for you.
